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The answer is definitely No! No one should be dependent on anybody in this era especially where relationships are concerned. Our old parents can be dependent on the children but we should not be dependent on our partner unless unforseen circumstances arises (whereby we are unable to function properly such as disable or bed-ridden, diseased, then someone have to look after us. But I am talking about normal spouse and normal partner.

As the chinese always says we have legs and hands. We do not need to depend on our partner. As long as you have your own hands and your own legs, we can also have means to work and have means to support ourselves. We do not need to be "parasites" and stay in our partner 'stomach' or 'body'.

After what I had been through and we can always look at statistic as well. How many partners, men or wives cheated on their spouse. How many faithful ones are there? How many cases are there where there is "till death do us part"? Divorce rate is never dropping. Prostitution never halts. Gigolo also exists. Some old man married young girls, thinking their partners will stay with them forever. But in the end, the women left him, taking his money away. We heard too much stories of that. Still we have heard of women cheating married man of their money when they had affair with them. Can the wives of these husband who commited adulteries trust their partners? The same thing applies to the men, who have wives cheating on them. Can you continue to trust them? Can you believe they will change overnight?

Everyone got their dreams and goals to achieve in their lives. If we depend too much on our partner, they would also think you are a nuisance, a good for nothing. There are more disadvantages of depending on your partner than advantages. By depending on your partner, you tend to have no ideas of your own. Soon you have no opinions of yourself and seem meaningless and empty just behaving like a 'parasite'. Your partner is also a human being. He/She does not like a 'parasite' around. He/She needs support from their partner at times.

The correct relationship is one which regards each other as more than just true friend. Not dependent on your partner does not mean that you do not love your partner. Partners still have each other around for support and other activities. They can have their love and respect at the same time. But when it comes to dependent on our partner, it is "No", not unless you are disable or bedridden one day.

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