With so much excitement leading up to the honeymoon and during the honeymoon, couples often find that after the honeymoon is over that things suddenly go from incredible to boring and unfulfilling. Suddenly the marriage went from being exciting and fast paced, to something less rewarding than you thought it would be. This of course is considered the post-honeymoon slump.

While a good chunk of all newlyweds experience this slump, it can be easily explained and avoided. The idea behind it, especially for the bride is that she has spent so much time planning for the wedding, going to parties, searching for the perfect dress, and now suddenly she doesn't have anything to look forward to. With the amount of planning that goes along with a wedding, many brides find that they become addicted to that lifestyle and they feel like they always had something ahead of them. After marriage, all of that is finally done with, and it can become quite difficult for many couples to deal with. This is especially true if one of the partners is a stay at home parent or a non-working spouse.

In order to get past this slump, it is important that you work through a plan of action quickly, before it ultimately affects your marriage. Right after the wedding there is nothing worse than fighting, and there is nothing that brings about a fight faster than the post-wedding slump. To avoid this, the partners need to come up with a way to keep the slumping partner busy. This will keep them from thinking about things, it will keep them from their boredom, and will allow them a chance to have fun and focus on something else for a change. Essentially, you need to find something to fill the void of planning for a wedding, now that they are no longer needed for that process.

For many, this is the best time to go back to school. With all of the motivation that comes along with planning a wedding, you can ride off of that motivation and dedication and turn that into a school drive. This isn't the best solution for everyone, but it definitely helps in many instances. This will allow the slumping partner the opportunity to get out of the house, meet new people, and gain a sense of purpose.

Another method that is quite effective is scrapbooking. For many people, scrapbooking has a great healing effect about it. You can take all of the pictures, all of the items from the wedding, and put together scrapbooks. If you do this in scrapbooking groups, it will also be a means of meeting new people and learning new techniques at the same time.

Sometimes getting a job can even be helpful. This is very important especially for those slumping spouses that don't work. If they have a job, they again have a sense of purpose and feel like they are a contributing member of the family. This also allows them to get out in the public, socializing, and potentially making new friends. This can make a huge different on how they feel while they are at home.

And of course the major thing to remember is that if you have a slumping spouse, you need to do whatever you can to make them feel loved. As long as they feel loved, most likely you can get past the slump together without much effort. You can attempt to do things together, go places, try to keep things fresh and full of adventure. Make sure that you are taking the time with that person, taking them out to dinner and showing them that you are happy that you have them.

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