by Tracy Lynn Smith

Created on: April 29, 2012

Yes, a relationship with a cheater can become a happy and successful relationship. There are many reasons on why the cheater cheated.  The problems could be confusion, life problems, and many other reasons. Relationship can change and they can also be fixed sometimes. Cheating is what happened, not who they are.

Is a speeder always a speeder? Is a smoker always a smoker? Not always. People can and do change. They can truly feel totally sorry and guilty for what happened. They can also have once be a cheater because they knew their old life was not right and can be a faithful a happy relationship for someone else. A cheater is not really who that person is, it is something they have done.

The reason a person cheats is very important and often can be very hurtful as well.  A person feels like their world is falling apart. They are having problem at work, at home, and are unhappy. That person may cheat because they are unhappy and stressed out. They are looking for happiness, which everyone deserves. This doesn’t mean the relationship is a failure. It could mean it is time to the relationship to end but it could also be a large sign of why the relationship to continue and succeed.

After the reason is determine both the cheater and the person being cheated on need to decide individually what is right for them. If the both decided staying together is the right thing to do, together they need to work on the relationship. The relationship will only succeed if both partners involved work together, fix past problems, and communicate. If the cheating results in the realization that the relationship is making someone in the relationship unhappy, then it is time for the relationship to end. Life is short, way too short to be unhappy.

If a person has cheated in the past, it doesn’t mean they will cheat on their next relationship. They could have learned a valuable lesson from their cheating. There could have been something missing in the last relationship. The next person could be the love of their life, the person they were looking for, and part of why they cheated because that was the person they needed.

Cheating is not who is a person is. Cheating is something that can and has happened. Cheating is very hurtful and means the relationship is having huge problems. A person who has cheated may be able to be trusted again if the problems are fix, but it may also mean that the current relationship is not the right one for them.

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