by Amanda Coers

Created on: March 25, 2007   Last Updated: May 16, 2007

I remember when my husband proposed. We joyfully began to discuss his new role as a daddy. I was a single mother of three children when we met, and though my children adored him, he was a little worried about finding his place in our family.

In an effort to ease the transition, my oldest daughter, six years old at the time, decided it would be a good idea to list the "rules" of the house for our newest family member. I was amazed to see her actually sit down and create a list. On a piece of notebook paper she wrote in red crayon. I'm guessing the red color was to stress the importance of her rules.

Apparently there were seven rules in her mind. I perused the list and found them to be fairly solid guidelines. I think just about anyone can apply these rules to their own lives and be happy. Future step-daddies may want to take note.

Here is her list, in her own words and followed with my own brief explaination:

1. Put the seat down.

The girls outnumbered the boys in our home, so this rule was at the top of her list and it was non-negotiable. What is really at the heart of this rule is common courtesy. I think families should always keep in mind there are others in the home and strive to maintain harmony.

2. Do what mommy says.

Just for the record I'd like to state I'm not a tyrant. But it is a good rule. Of course, I didn't expect my future husband to heed my every whim. That would not be an equal partnership. This rule is really for the children. Children should honor and obey their parents. We're looking out for their best interest. I was most pleased to see my daughter understood this at such an early age.

3. Don't scream.

We try to discourage screaming in the house. Sure, it's great fun to get all riled up and cut loose. Screaming gets old fast, though, and kills the fun.

4. Do not run.

Again, I didn't think my future husband would zoom about the house at full speed, but this one is for the children. Running around like crazy people is annoying and dangerous. There is a time and a place for everything. Running is terrific exercise. It's best to run outside where hopefully you won't plow into anyone.

5. Do not give mommy a headache.

The best way to do this is to follow rules one through four.

6. Do not yell.

If you need to argue, that's fine but there is no reason to strain your vocal cords. Try to get your point across in a civilized manner. There is absolutely nothing wrong with debating a point. It's actually very good to consider all the sides of an issue. There is

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