by Ann Nurse

Created on: December 23, 2011

Discipline is a critical attribute to develop in children.  It is a valuable trait in any individual.  Discipline is essential if we are to succeed in life.  As parents we are in a position of leadership in the family.  We can establish rules for the purpose of bringing out the best in our children with calm, deliberate confidence.  Actually, it can begin as early as setting up a feeding schedule.  Discipline does not equate to punishment.  Positive discipline involves teaching children as they grow and develop in daily activities.  First, and foremost you as the leader, teach by example.  Discipline should not have a negative connotation.  There are few things in life that work well without order and discipline.  We learn discipline through practice.  We teach children discipline through practical application.  Discipline is core to critical thinking.  For example, p positive  discipline involves teaching a child the value of time management.  The sooner they are able to put their room in order, the more time they will have to play-teaches prioritizing, organization and time management.  They should be rewarded and praised for their accomplishment, which will build self confidence in them.  They are fulfilling part of the family responsibility by taking work off Mom.

Discipline builds character.  As your child grows from a feeding schedule, to potty training there are patterns formed and time lines observed and both involve discipline.  A time for eating is established and a time to use the bathroom is also set in order.  The child sees order and use of time.  Our children should receive p positive reinforcements for the self-control and confidence they exhibit when they do a good job.  The most lasting gift you can give a child does not  have to involve a material possession.  The hug of a parent who says, "great job, I'm proud of you," can be a great reward for a child.  Children love to please their parents and get their approval.  We raised five children following Biblical teachings on discipline and temperance. 

Here is what is said in Proverbs 25:28.

"He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down without walls."

Positive discipline teaches a child how to prioritize, to have good work habits, to be steadfast, have self control and to show off their ability to accomplish a task in a responsible manner.

It is true that parenting style does play a role in positive discipline.  The authoritative parent will probably get better results than a more permissive parent.  Why?  The child is looking for the parent as the primary example.  Guidelines of expectations should not change from day to day.  Your expectations should be explained in detail and administered fairly giving the child room to grow and learn and to perfect his outcome.  Make it nearly impossible for the child to fail but expect improvements with practice.  A child wants to please their parent and understands that all the parent does is to bring out the best in their children.

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