by Carole Ligi

Created on: December 18, 2011

It is never easy to be on the receiving end of another person’s insults. However, when you are on the receiving end of a person who constantly insults you and others as well keep in mind that this person is insecure and tries to compensate for that insecurity by the insults.  The result of being proactive with this negative type of verbal confrontation will not only make you more confident about whom you are, but will slow down and/or hopefully stop the bad habits of the person who feels the need to insult. 

The person doing the insulting could be an acquaintance or a stranger. These people may be intentionally or unintentionally insulting others.  Decide which category the person fits into. If the insult is unintentional, then let it go and chalk up the insult to the person is having a bad day.  But if the insult is intentional then there are ways to deal with the person’s rude behavior.  

When the insult is intentional, foremost remember that there is something about you that makes the person feel insecure.  That means that the only way this person can feel good about his or her self is to try and bring you down to their level of self perception.  More often than not the insulter will always try to belittle you in front of an audience.  It gives the insulter a false sense of power.  You can take this false sense of power away from the person through the following means.  

Most important is when dealing with insults, never lower yourself to that person’s level by resulting to name calling.  That person already has shown his or her lower caliber so show this person and others that you are better than that negative form of verbal interaction.  

Most of the time the best defense would be to ignore the insulting comments from that person and simply walk away therefore letting the person know that they are not worth your time and attention.  A wise woman once said that when one person tries to start an argument, which is what the person who needs to insult is doing, simply turn and walk away.  Then the person who feels the need to insult will look silly in front of others arguing with themselves. 

However, when a person is a habitual insulter it is not always easy to keep being the one to walk away each and every time.  There are a few phrases that will not lower you to the name calling level, but will put you in a better position and put the person

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