by Veronica Foust

Created on: March 22, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

I have children by 2 different fathers. It's not something I'm proud of especially now that I'm older. I fell in love at a young age and started having children young. My first love and I didn't stay together. We didn't even get married. I was dumb and foolish and hung on for quite a few years. Long enough to have 4 children by him. And I chose another bad mate, and thought by getting pregnant that he would stay with me. Of course that was not true. We were married for 6 weeks and got divorced. And I got pregnant and had a 5th child. Of course I stopped having children after that and ended up finding a goo mate. And he helped me raise my children. We lived together for 5 years and then got married and have been together every since. It is hard having children by different fathers if you let it be. After my mistakes in life I can only say that you have to grow up and be really strong about the situation. You have to put your children first. You can't seem desperate for the first man that comes along. Being alone with children is what makes women vulnerable to these situations. Its hard to raise kids in a two parent home but even harder by yourself. But as the children get older they start using this against you. Some don't adapt as well as others. I believe its hard on boys and girls the same. Both need a father in their life. Its hard on a woman because people look down on you. They think something is wrong with you for your relationships not working out. Mothers have it harder than fathers in these situations. Especially if you end up on welfare like I did. I wish I would have handled things in my life a lot different than I did. I love my children but I made a lot of mistakes that I have had to live with. When there is more than one father you have a lot of conflict going on. Not to say having to deal with child support if they even pay it. Being in this type of situation can be very hurtful and stressful for a young woman to deal with. And I'm speaking from experience.

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