by Leslie Trotter

Created on: November 23, 2011   Last Updated: November 24, 2011

There might come a time in the lives of many men that they will date a woman who has been abused in the past by an ex-boyfriend or husband. She may have even been abused as a child by a parent. Whatever terrible situation she had to deal with in the past, her feelings will have to be understood.

She will have her melt downs, flash backs or may not trust any man because of what happened to her. Being patient with her and letting her know that she can trust in you and confide in you if she ever needs to. She needs to know that you care and you must show her that she is not alone.

Don't get to a point in the relationship where you become insensitive and never tell her to get over it because it was the past. this is something that has affected her life and unfortunately bad things that has happened to us clings to our memories.  Suggest to your girlfriend that she should speak to a therapist and that you will go along with her for support if she wants you there. If she turns you down, don't beg her nor force her. Just be patient, in time she may be willing to go.

Do things with her that is fun and exciting like pamper her, boost up her self esteem by telling her how beautiful she is and that you love her and would never hurt her. Being in a relationship with a woman who is abused is no different than  being in a relationship with any woman.ast,m i Most women have a story or two to tell aboutsomething she may have gone through in the past, it's the woman who has let it destroy her who you will have a tough time with.

If you love a woman who was abused, don't let her negative ways of dealing with her past run you away. Be as supportive as possible because in time shewill be better as long as she has a loving and supportive boyfriend or husband in her life. You might feel like you're helpless at times. However, know that showing her how much you care about her will indeed aid to
healing.

The odd's of you getting through to her through your good actions and building trust with her will make the relationship better. Now if you feel as though you can't handle what she's going through, it is best to explain how you feel about the situation. Perhaps she should take some time away from the relationship to take time with herself because the both of you being in misery will not make the relationship a pleasant journey.

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