by Deborah Coshun

Created on: November 21, 2011

Exploration of the differences between men and women is a long and arduous journey that takes many years to accomplish. The first road to be traveled is the acceptance that there is a difference; in fact there are many differences! Women tend to think things through to see how everyone will be affected by their decision and give much thought as to the accuracy of their decision. Men jump into a situation with the thought process of “I am right” and why can’t you see that! Is that biased? Of course it is but it is certainly true. Is this difference because men have more confidence and women less confidence? No, it is simply that women are more apt to consider both sides of the issue where as man will be more prone to listen only after he has dictated his authority. Second issue is a continuation from above comments. Men tend to want to control the situation where as women can more easily go along with the situation. A woman will spread her wings when it is necessary but for the most part pretty amiable as long as things proceed according to plan. Now, here is where we have the problem! Once a woman realizes that control must be changed in order to get to the ultimate goal, she will stand against anyone and defend her decision. At this point, man will tend to grumble loudly, pout and play the poor me card; he will not see the ultimate goal but the lack of control. Women in general love to discuss things and come to a joint decision. Men don’t need to waste time on discussion; if we women would just realize that they know what is best. That may seem harsh but it is simply the truth. Men have never been known to enjoy conversing with a woman unless she happens to like sports, fishing, golf, etc... A woman will understand the man’s needs for man’s means of entertainment but the man will lovingly (yes, we can only hope) make disparaging remarks as the woman sits to enjoy a night of Dancing with The Stars, chick flicks, etc. Raising children…..wow, here we go. Women in general are the care givers of nurturing for the children and called a “softie” by the man. Let me tell you a secret and a very important one! The man is the softie! This is one area I have found that if you let the man go out and make the purchase for the kid, adult child, teenager, etc. the man will far out do the woman’s coddling. It all goes back to the “control issue” that most men seem to have; as long as they are doing the coddling, all in the world is ok. So go for it sweetheart, make the decisions and I’ll just ponder along until you step out of line and I have to take control. The issues of difference go on and on. The issues are not so far apart but simply exist and if you can learn those differences and appreciate how each one can work with the other, you will find a happy coexistence. Fighting the differences and trying to change your partner will result only in disaster.

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