by Dolores Moore

Created on: November 21, 2011

The party season is well and truly upon us, and most people go along to a party in the hopes of enjoying a pleasant and sociable experience.  This means, that even if you are suffering from some illness that takes up many of your thoughts and drives your life, you would be better to leave it behind.  One of the reasons why you should not make your illness the main topic at a party is that dwelling on it and talking on and on about it is going to stop you enjoying the occasion.  After all, you have gone to the effort of getting dressed up, made up and spruced up to go along to what should be a happy gathering.  If you are fixated on the negative of being ill, how are you going to get the most fun out of this party?

The next most important reason why you should not make your illness the main topic at a party is the the effect this will have on others if you do so.  At first, you will certainly receive compassion and sympathy, driven by good manners.  But if you persist in talking on and on, excluding other topics and other people's interests, then they will soon melt into the walls, warning others as they do so to steer clear of you.  You will have become the party bore, the one to be avoided.  Not only will you destroy your own pleasure, but you will make it hard for other party-goers to enjoy themselves fully.

It is so easy to let yourself get bogged down in the details of what is a very traumatic set of circumstances, namely being ill.  Sometimes, those details are just too much information for other people who, after all, have gone to the trouble of preparing for a good time.  When you make your illness the main topic of your conversation, you are spoiling the event and maybe even upsetting someone.  Most of us have experienced illness, either personally or with a loved one, and to be reminded can often be upsetting.

So try to give yourself a break from being ill by forgetting about it for this brief interlude of fun and join the party with a positive attitude.  Do not define yourself to others as the person who is sick, but the person who knows how to party.  Listen and laugh, talk about everything under the sun, but do not go on and on about illness.  You will feel so much better by being "normal" for a while, by being happy with your friends and relatives, and by helping them to enjoy the party.  That is, after all, what you are there for.  Think positive, be positive and see how popular you become.     

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