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There are lots of ways to continue dating your spouse long after you've said "I Do". Sadly many times after the honeymoon couples get bogged down with work and household chores and children and a dozen other things that they either forget how to date or just don't bother taking the time to date each other. I wonder if the divorce rate would go down if more married couples would make dating each other a priority?

If you've stopped dating your spouse and have a desire to bring the fun, excitement and romance of dating back into your life, I suggest you think back to when you were dating before marriage.

The easiest way to get back into the swing of dating the one you Love is to remember the things you used to enjoy and start with those. A date doesn't have to be an all day or all night event. It can be just a few hours, the key is to continue to treat your spouse with the love and dedication as you did when you 1st became sweethearts.

A date doesn't have to be dinner and a movie any more. A date can be anything that the two of you enjoy doing together and do it alone. If you have kids get a sitter for a few hours a week. They will reap the benefits by having happy parents who are less stressed.

Some of the ways we keep an atmosphere of dating in our marriage are as follows"

* When we see an opportunity to have a few uninterrupted hours at home we go to work and fix a nice simple dinner together. while its cooking we get dressed up then set the table chill the wine and light the candles. A little soft music a nice dinner just the two of us spending time together. Usually after our little candle lite dinner we dance.

* We hold hands all the time and put our arms around each other and steal kisses every chance we get.

* When its warm outside we sit outside and look at the sky and just enjoy the moment of silence just the two of us, forgetting about the cares of everyday life till we go back into the house.

* We make a point of going for walks together, and playing together every chance we get.

* We generally try to go out to a restaurant just the two of us at least once per week.

* We go hiking, play Frisbee, camping, get involved with each others hobbies and interests.

Remember when you were dating before you got married? Normal everyday life was still there you each had jobs, chores, bills and laundry. But during the date it was all about the two of you and your love for each other. That is the part we need to keep. Time spent just enjoying each other. Without thinking about or discussing the jobs, chores, bill, or laundry.

After 10 years of marriage and 11 years of dating I am happy to say he still opens doors for me. I still walk him to the door when he gets ready to leave for work when its nice I walk to the car with him. We kiss goodby and I wave at him as he pulls out of the drive. He still calls me on his breaks at work and we enjoy spending time together. We still dream for the future, our future together. And we still celebrate the anniversary of the night we started dating.

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