by Leslie Trotter

Created on: November 07, 2011

You've spent many nights awake grieving over your ex. However, you know that this has to change so that you can get on with your life. Your ex has gotten on with his life, he even has started dating again, while you're sitting at home with a pint of ice cream and a whole pepperoni pizza.

The first thing you need to do for closure is recite to yourself in the mirror that your relationship is over and allow yourself to cry as much as you need to. Put away everything that your ex bought you, like jewelry, trinkets,and stuff animals or anything else that he has given you as a gift.

Don't throw any of it away, especially the ones that are costly. In time after you are over your ex, you might be able to handle the memories and you'll regret throwing away some of those special gifts.  You can't get the special moments back, but the material things you have gotten may still be important to you later on.

It is also a good idea to stay away from places you've frequented often with your ex until your heart is healed. Mutual friends you've shared with him should also be avoided especially if they are mostly sympathetic towards him and blame you for the breakup, they can easily betray your trust in them.

Spend time with other friends, the ones you've known a long time and trust and also value the time you spend with your family. Friends and family should understand that you do not want to talk about the breakup or hear your ex's name brought up into any conversation. Most friends and family will adhere to your wishes.

Become a social butterfly and go to the parties and events that you are invited to, go on dates and enjoy your time around other people. If you stay confined in your home you will miss out on something potentially special.

Another good way to find closure is to remind yourself that you are worthy of a healthy loving relationship and promise yourself that you will indeed move on. Many people feel hopeless after a breakup, they feel worthless and blame themselves for their breakups. If you allow these feelings to come into your mind and win, your past is the winner here. Old relationships should be left in the past so that you can move on and be happy

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