by Leslie Trotter

Created on: November 05, 2011

When he won't marry you, is it time to move on? is an understatement; run instead.  Who needs to be stuck hanging on for years for some guy to get the clue that he should be making you his wife instead of keeping you on as a girlfriend. You are giving him all the benefits of being his wife without being his wife. So darling it is about time you wake up and realize that you deserve more and that is the security that marriage can bring you.

You've given him 13 ultimatums over the years to plan a wedding with you, but now you are planning your child's 5th birthday party with him instead.  It is time you understand that there are men out there who would have married you a long time ago. However, you turned down dates with them to hang out with this man who has you hanging on a string waiting for him to marry you. If it hasn't happened in five years I doubt it will ever happen.

The cruel truth is when he meets a another woman that he feels is more desireable and exciting than you are to him, he will leave you for her and possibly marry her in the end; while your young years are thrown away.  You had every right to have experienced marriage and security with a man who felt you were worth it.

You will end up a struggling single mother fighting for whatever is owed to your child for years, while your ex-boyfriend takes care of his new legal wife and child.  This is a future no woman wants with a man she loves; most women prefer to be married within two years of knowing a man. A man that wants to get his ducks in a row before marriage is one to be respected, but when he gets his ducks in a row and another excuse comes up not to get married, you are not who he wants to be married to. He keeps you around because he can get all the benefits of a wife from you without marrying you.

You've heard it before from him that a marriage license is nothing but a piece of paper and it doesn't prove his love for you. If he loved you so much he'd honor you, and honoring you would be making you his wife. It is all cute in the beginning when friends and relatives see you walking arm and arm as boyfriend and girlfriend, but then it gets old and you start looking like a desperate woman hanging onto to someone who is making a fool of you.

Your life is important and you are entitled to being the wife of a good man, so get rid of this free loader and find the man who is meant to be your husband.

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