If you can remember back to being a teenager, then you know what your child is going through now. They don't want to listen because they think they know it all. They see you as the enemy because you are constantly telling them to tuck in their shirt or what time to come home. They are moody. They are confused.

The last thing your teen wants to do is fight. Though, it seems every time you argue it is one control issue and then another. The harder they buck you, the tighter you want to pull the reigns.

Lighten up. Sometimes, you have to be willing to lose in order to win. Okay, so your daughter dyed her hair blue, at least she did not get that matching nose ring she had her eyes on. You can tell your child how you feel and encourage them to do what you want them to but, ultimatley they are the ones who will choose what they are going to do.

Give them their space. The more you fuss at them, the more rebellious they want to be. You can not pick at every detail as bad as you want to. Most teens are just going through phases. Give them a little times, and maybe things will be back to normal. You don't want to lose your child forever.

Instead of constant nagging, try constructive criticism. Use "I feel.." phrases to tell your child how their behavior makes you feel, rather than pointing fingers and yelling.

Beware of the hormonal moody teenager, but don't tiptoe around them. Remember you are still the boss. You just don't have to pick at everything. Understand their need for self expression and even though you may hate it, lack of respect for authority. Be careful, these are tender years.

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