by Julia W

Created on: September 16, 2011   Last Updated: September 18, 2011

Love at first sight – does it exist or not? It really depends on your definition of love. For some people, love equals lust or attraction. For others, it goes way deeper than simple infatuation.

Nowadays people are very much influenced by what they see in the media and on TV. Soap operas, romantic movies, Hollywood couples. People are given the impression that love at first sight happens all the time, that it is a fact. So how come it never happened to you? Why are you missing out on the sweet stuff?

Love at first sight is a myth. It makes life seem sweeter than cotton candy. However, true love cannot possibly happen within an instant. It takes time to develop this deep and genuine feeling that enables you to move mountains. It has to be nurtured and cared for until it is so powerful and strong that nothing can ever destroy it. You can look at it like a plant that you watch grow from its infancy to adulthood. At the beginning, when it is still fragile and small, it can be called infatuation. It is quite vulnerable during this stage. As it matures, its roots grow deeper; it gains in strength and looks beautiful.

Infatuation, unlike true love, can happen at first sight. It is based on body chemistry and an extremely positive view of your lover. You feel desire; you “love” everything about your partner and spend 24 hours a day, seven days a week on cloud number nine. You lose your sense of reality for a while, because your hormones go crazy. Spending time apart seems unbearable. How are you going to survive a minute without your sweetie?

This stage of infatuation does not last forever. It slowly subsides and either makes room for true love or it disappears completely and leads to a break-up.

This means what movies are trying to sell you as love at first sight is nothing but pure attraction. If you see someone for the first time, you know nothing about him or her. You can feel the chemistry, the tension, and the rest is your imagination of how great your counterpart is. In most cases, your interpretation will be far from the truth, because you tend to see only the good sides. Only time will show if you love your partner’s bad sides just as much as their nice traits. Only time will bring love. Only time.

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