by David Spell

Created on: September 16, 2011

First of all, it is important to recognize that there is a difference between domestic abuse and domestic violence. Domestic abuse can take place without actual violence. This abuse takes two primary forms:                                                                            

1. Verbal abuse- This might be manifested through threats, insults, put downs, name calling and the use of hurtful words. 

2. Emotional abuse- This might mean periods in which the abuser ignores the victim for long periods, acts jealous and accuses the victim of unfaithfulness, and exercises control over who the victim spends time with. Emotional abuse can be manifested through manipulation in which the victim is made to feel guilty and shamed. An example of this might be the abuser forcing the victim to engage in sexual practices against their will. Emotional abuse can also take the form of telling the victim how they can spend their money or what kind of clothes they should wear.

Domestic abuse often leads to domestic violence. Domestic violence usually starts with the abuser shoving the victim around, poking the victim, or pulling the victim's hair. These actions left unchecked can lead to the abuser slapping, punching, or kicking the victim. In extreme cases, the abuser might threaten the victim with some type of weapon while making threats to kill them. Studies have shown that domestic violence only gets worse. Many victims hold to the hope that one day things will get better. The reality is, without professional intervention and help, the level of violence is going to increase.

Relationships always bring challenges. Couples disagree and have arguments. In many cases, these arguments can become heated. At what point does someone become the victim of domestic violence? 

In most states in the US, Domestic Violence Law clearly articulates what a violation is. These laws are designed to protect the victim. In my jurisdiction, police officers can make an arrest when they observe visible injuries to the victim. If their lip is busted, if their eye is swollen, or if their is

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