by John Louie Ramos

Created on: August 17, 2011   Last Updated: August 20, 2011

Jealousy can be a major source of irritation and anger in a relationship. In addition, jealousy can often result into conflicts and fights. However, jealousy is a good thing as long as it is controlled and remains rational. Being jealous means that you truly love your partner and you want his/her undivided attention.

Thus, jealousy can even further strengthen a couple’s relationship, only if the feelings are channeled properly. Below are several tips on

how jealousy can be controlled in a relationship.

1) Be aware that you are jealous – don’t deny it

Jealousy, just like any other human emotion, is normal. All people get jealous over something or someone, especially in a relationship. The first and foremost step in controlling jealousy is to accept the fact that jealousy really exists and it poses potential damages to you and your partner’s relationship.

Remember, admission is the first step towards healing. It is necessary that you admit that you are jealous in order to find better ways of controlling and channeling such jealous emotion.

2) Accept your imperfections and occasional silliness

It has been said time and time again that nobody is perfect. However, many people are still confused and are always bragging about their imperfections. Needless to say, such imperfections are the major roots of jealousy.

Accept your imperfections and occasional silliness. Accept the fact that no one in this world is perfect and no one will ever be.

3) Always remind yourself of your good qualities

Loving yourself first before loving someone else is a true sign of maturity regardless whether it’s within or outside a romantic relationship. Love yourself by always reminding yourself of the good qualities you possess.

You may not be perfect in all aspects or you may not be good at all things but there is always a thing or two where you’re good at. Find your niche as well as your unique traits to avoid any feeling of inferiority against others.

4) Spend some “alone” time at least once a week

You should also spend some “alone” time at least once a week. Treating and pampering yourself not only helps you relax but also makes you appreciate the small, positive things around you.

5) Trust your partner

Of course, trusting your partner is one of the best ways to control and overcome jealousy in a relationship. Trust is the ultimate foundation of healthy relationships.

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