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by Beef Frankland

If you have had a child, met or worked with one that has low self-esteem you will know the value of raising children with high self-esteem.
If a child knows his or her worth then they will have more confidence, they will be able to deal with the ups and downs of life, will develop better and stronger friendships and be able to make wiser life choices.
Here are six simple tips to help in doing this.

1: Spend time with your children.
It sounds obvious but sadly our busy lifestyles and work demands often mean we spend little quality time with our children.
Time spent is crucial and means not doing work whilst at home in these times, it means eating together, playing together, reading together, watching movies, having days out. The key is that the focus is on them. Just by spending time speaks volumes non-verbally that they are important and valued.

2: Teach your children that it is OK to fail. Failure can be seen as such a negative thing and cause child depression and low self worth. Teach them to treat failure as feedback. To look at the situation in a positive way and ask what can I learn from this? What could I do differently next time to achieve what I want to.
For this to be really effective you have to demonstrate it in your own life as well.

3: Encourage, encourage, encourage.
How many times a day do you praise your children. Develop this for the small things as well as the monumental. Teach them to do the same. If this becomes a daily part of life you will physically see a change in their esteem.

4: Let them know that what ever they do you will always love them.
This does not mean you let them get away with any thing they want, boundaries are essential for children to thrive. But when they step over those boundaries and they have been disciplined in the appropriate manner always let them know that you love them. The key is that they know that you do not approve of their behavior but that despite it you still love them. Firm and fair.

5: Teach them that their posture can effect their mood. If they are feeling low naturally their heads droops towards the floor. This posture is negative and teaching them to lift their heads, chin up can increase self-esteem. I have taught my children this and it can turn a potential trauma around in a few minutes, now all I need to say is chin up. Then we talk about what is bothering them in a positive way.

All of these methods I have tried with my own children and with those I work with, they take time and need to become a consistent part of your daily life but when they do the effects are amazing.

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