by Rhonda M.

Created on: August 12, 2011   Last Updated: August 13, 2011

The dating world is complex. We enter this world as a reserved and knowledgeable individual and still end up looking like a complete idiot. How can a smart realistic woman end up looking like a moron? She played the game of love missing the clues along the game board. As you play the game of love catch the following clues along your way.

Determine how into you your guy is by his actions. How often does he want to see you? Does he want to be with you on a regular basis or are you on an “I will call you when I want to see you again basis”? If your guy wants to see you only when he wants, be honest with yourself the two of you are not playing the same game.

When you set dates does he show up on time? If your guy is always late or cancelling his obligations with you he is giving you a warning to not invest heart and soul. A guy who really likes your company is going to be counting down minutes at the table for two until you show up. We have all had canceled plans but if he is canceling often beware you are playing a losing game.

Does he call you or want you to call him? If every time you call the only voice you hear is his voice mail chances are good he does not want to carry on a conversation with you. It is not really the fact he had no service, was in a meeting, or was in the bathroom. If he misses your call and is interested  he will call you back. A guy who is worth your time wants to hear from you and will most often call you just to "check in and see how you are or your day is going".

Does his family and friends know you? If your guy's best friend or mother does not recognize your name chances are good he is not into you. A man's best friend and mother knows almost every detail there is to know of your man's life and if you are not a part of what they know you are wasting your time in the great pursuit of love if you two have dated a while.

You are sick, does he care? If you are feeling bad does your man call to check on you during the day or offer to come over to cook chicken soup? If you get a callous well I hope you feel better soon at best chances are good he does not care the hand you are being dealt.

Other clues to look for can be does he introduce you when you meet someone he knows but you do not? How does he introduce you? Are you just a name or a girlfriend?

Ladies these are all signs we need to clue into as we play the game of love. If your guy is showing these signs call him on it. Be honest with each other to decide if your relationship is what you both want. If he does not care cash in and prepare for the next game. You cannot make him love you.

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