by J. Lee Kenser

Created on: August 11, 2011   Last Updated: August 12, 2011

According to the court officials, I have spoken in the past there is no valid connection between child support arrangements and Parenting time visitation rights.  Rather the two are seen as separate issues and one cannot interfere with the other, as this would seem as a punishment to the children involved rather than a punishment to the parent who is no paying their child support or is behind in payments.  Not all too often the offending parent is seen to be delinquent on purpose with little to no regard to why the said payments are not being made are being paid in full.  There is no valid reason to punish the parent particularly in our current economic climate where many women have little understanding how hard it can be for a male to find and maintain employment in this economy.

As financial reports from government bodies claim that women make less than men it often can then be assumed it would be easier for a woman to keep a job based upon her income expense to her company over what a man’s might cost them.  There is no reason to therefore punish men or women who get behind for non-payment by taking their Parenting Time rights away that are along with the legal mandates to pay child support are inherently already earned as the parent.  With no other reason to remove a parent from parenting time it would then be against the law as currently written to take that right away simply that a parent is unable to pay their support.

Often women want to use this as an excuse to cause strife in an already volatile situation between two adults who during these kinds of issues often act more like children than do the actual children involved.  As most of the time it is in fact the man who leaves the relationship and thus leaves the woman with the children as our antiquated court system with regards to who would be the better parent still perceives to be a given in many cases.  Then that woman uses the children as pawns against this “man” who left her with the children as if suddenly they have become a burden to her rather than the children she first saw as a gift, which now she then blames the offending ex-spouse for.

This is all too often, why when she is not getting child support according to state and federal guidelines she wants to punish the man by refusing him the parenting time to which he is legally entitled to as agreed upon by court order.  This stands only to punish the children and not the parent who

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