by Amy Hite

Created on: August 04, 2011   Last Updated: August 17, 2011

To many, dating in the workplace conjures up horrifying thoughts of sexual harassment and quid pro quo cases.  Others assume that dating a coworker is a line that should not be crossed and more specifically, is a situation that can only end in disaster.  On the contrary, meeting someone at the office is perfectly normal, especially considering that many adults are very career driven and have little time to socialize outside of work.  A workplace relationship can be successful, particularly if boundaries and ground rules are set.  Here are some tips to navigating an office romance.

1.  Dating your boss is never a good idea.

Steer clear of superiors and subordinates for a variety of reasons.  Perceptions of favoritism can arise from peers, it puts the company at a greater risk of lawsuits, and most importantly, if the personal relationship does not work, the work relationship will suffer greatly.

2.  Keep it professional.

While at work, focus on work.  That is not to say that you cannot speak to your significant other, but incessant flirting and/or unprofessional behavior can cost you your job.  Be aware of your performance on the job and keep it at a high level.

3.  Have a plan if the relationship fails.

Remember that if your romance does not work, you will still have to see your ex at the office.  Use common sense.  If you work with someone closely every day and you decide to start a courtship, seeing each other constantly on a personal and professional level may be taxing on the relationship.  More importantly, if the courtship fails, the close working relationhip must remain.  Are you willing to deal with awkward moments or even give up your job for an office fling?  A better plan would be to date someone in a different department or someone assigned to another location.

4.  Make decisions together.

Will you keep your relationship a secret or let the office know?  How many details about the relationship are you both comfortable with divulging?  It is best to set rules together for a variety of reasons.  You certainly do not want to become fodder for office gossip, and with both of you on the same wavelength in regards to what can and cannot be spoken about at work, you will have a much better chance at a successful relationship.

5.  Think it through before you act.

Do not act on a quick temptation or an intense initial attraction.  Office relationships are often difficult and no one wants to risk his or her career on something that is not worth it.  Move slowly and allow yourself plenty of time to weigh all of your options and priorities before making a jump into a relationship.        

With respect, time, and a little common sense, workplace courtships can not only be successful, but can develop into loving long-term relationships.  Stay smart and think with your head and your heart.   

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