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I've been a single parent for the last 6 and half years, bringing up my sons, wasn't that hard really, everyone deals with different situations, in their own way, to the best of their knowledge. My eldest son was was 6 years old, and my youngest 2 and half, when me and their dad split up. My eldest has always, been so laid back and placid, but always a happy child, my youngest he's always been a bit of a live wire, and still is today, but not in a bad way, they are both very happy boys, dispute not seeing their dad very often. When we first separated, it was a bit of a struggle to start with, because every time they went to see their dad

they would come back home to me, and would be saying things like "my dad lets me do this or that, why wont you let us"?, But eventually things calmed down. I would often sit and talk to them and try and explain, that now we are on our own, we have to work together, love and support each other, over a period of time, the little squabbles that all siblings have, that they were having, seemed to stop, they played together nicely, shared things with each other, and every time i heard them giggling together, i thought how nice it was that they got on so well with each other.

If a child is bought up in a good loving environment, whether its with both parents or not, they seem to be a lot more pleasant and understanding. Children pick up on emotions from their parents, and if the parents are happy, and show that they care and are always there for them, its a great start to helping your child with self control. When my youngest son, got upset or mardy over something, i would say in a calm voice without shouting, "come here darling, talk to me, whats up" and ask him why he is acting the way he is, and explain to him face to face, that there is no need to get upset or have a mardy tantrum, just because he couldn't have his own way or whatever the reason may have been, the problem was soon solved, and he was back to his normal chirpy self. When a child gets to understand that they cant have their own way all the time, and they realize, that the way they are acting is wrong, you will see them grow and mature, and respect other peoples feelings as well as their own. Its all about bonding, nurturing, letting them know who is in control, never let your child dictate or try and control you, it should be the opposite way round, the more you stand your ground, the more respect you will get in return.

I don't believe in smacking kids, thats one

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