by Indigo Blu

Created on: July 29, 2011

As a teenager, the world revolves around friendships and social acceptance.  Parents are nice to have, but a mere luxury.  Friends! Those are true necessities to a teen.  Teens usually have a best friend, aka “BFF”, “Bestie”, etc.  That person is everything.  However, what happens when a teen gets into it with his or her Bestie? The world comes to an end!  As someone who has been there before, here’s the advice I would give to a teen who has had an argument with their best friend:

I know you are very hurt, and may even feel betrayed.  This is all a part of growing up. Every friendship goes through stuff like this. I went through this exact thing with my best friend when I was 15.  It was DEVASTATING! To see my best friend hanging out with different people, not even saying hello to me in the hallways...it hurt so much.  Years later, I'm very grateful for that happening. You see, I was no longer "so-and-so's best friend". I became my own person.  I had to develop my own identity.  There was no choice.  That's when I started building my self-esteem, and enjoying these things that I liked, not doing things to please my best friend. After awhile, I became strong. I was able to walk down the hall and see my ex-best friend without blinking an eye.  I ended up believing in ME.  This was one major step that I had to take to achieve that.

 If you guys can talk it out and mend your bond, that’s awesome! It’s awesome because you guys have a strong and genuine friendship that most likely will last.  If you guys cannot work out your differences, it is not the end of the world, even though it probably feels like it.  Be strong within yourself, and hold your head high.  When you feel like you don’t have anyone, you have yourself and you have God. Neither one of them will let you down.  At first, it will be very difficult and very hurtful to see that person whom you thought you would never be without (especially if they are hanging out with new people).  But after awhile, the tension will wear down, and who knows? Maybe your friendship will be even stronger once you make up. Maybe the two of you will never speak again. Either way, you will be a stronger, smarter person. Please believe it!

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