by Tony Chuks Modungwo

Created on: July 22, 2011   Last Updated: May 23, 2012

The three most important events in a person’s life are the day he is born, the day he marries and the day he dies. Of these, he has no control over the first and the last. He can exercise considerable control over the day he marries and who he marries.

A woman once told me,”I was once married and I have a baby girl. The marriage did not work out. We were incompatible and that is why it didn’t work. It lasted only three months and before then I was already pregnant.” It is obvious that the young man and woman have no reason to have married in the first place if they took time to know themselves well before rushing into marriage. If they loved each other, the marriage would have survived, no matter how many mistakes they made along the way.

She must have married him because he appeared manly, was physically strong, and had demonstrated that he was capable of meeting the world and earning a good living. He must have been a man of every girl’s idea of the perfect romantic hero. The man must have been attracted to her because she was pretty and dainty, and possessed those feminine charms which appeal to every young man. They got married for all the wrong reasons and couldn’t find enough good ones to stay married because a successful marriage needs more than physical appearance.

For you to choose a life partner you must consider the following factors:

Ideal Age of Marriage

There are several reasons why teenage marriages are undesirable. Financial security is not easily attended during the teens. Very young couple must either continue to live under the parent’s roof or struggle against such hardships as may cause them to regret venturing into marriage. Under ideal circumstances marriage should be practiced in an independent atmosphere.

Several social researches have proved that the highest percentage of happy marriage result when the groom is not less than twenty-four and the bride not less than twenty-two years of age.

Frequently, people talk of young man choosing a wife, but rarely talk of a young woman choosing a husband. In an ideal situation a young woman should have a say in determining who her husband should be. Marriage involves a mutual agreement, and unalloyed happiness depends as much on the wife as well as on the husband.

Convention in our society requires that a young woman waits to be proposed. However, it is not imperative that she accept the first offer that she receives. A young woman’s way of life as

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