by cody18

Created on: July 07, 2011   Last Updated: December 29, 2011

One of the key ingredients to having a fulfilling relationship is spending time with each other. It is especially important for couples that have busy schedules to make time for each other where they set aside all the distractions and obligations and focus on each other. If you don't have time together you run the risk of drifting apart. Eventually you may feel like you don't really know your spouse on a deep intimate level anymore, they've become more of a roommate than a mate.

If you feel overwhelmed at the thought of fitting in special time with your spouse, your schedule is too busy. You are crowding out what should be the most important relationship after your relationship with God in your life. It takes work to remain connected to another person, and in order to be connected to them you must spend time with them.

You must make spending time with your spouse a priority. You must see it as vital to having a good marriage. It is not that difficult to make time for each other if you take the time to assess what you spend your time doing. Figure out what you can put off or cut out of your schedule to allow some time for you and your spouse. At least once a week you need to set aside time for each other and go on a date. This does not mean you have to go out to dinner or spend a bunch of money. Date night can be staying at home but choosing instead of turning on the TV to focus on each other. Sit at the table and talk about how you each are doing. Dating should not end when you get married, you still need those special times together to connect, have fun with and talk to each other without other distractions going on.

It is quite common for both spouses to have extremely busy schedules that often conflict with each other. If this is the case with you and your spouse you must be willing to compromise and find a time that works for both of you. You may have to switch your gym time or miss out on some extra activity, but it will be worth it. Pick a time that you can commit to every week. If you have to constantly change your time each week it will be easier to skip out on your date.

In addition to setting a specific date time each week, you can get creative and fit in some extra time as well. Be willing to get up early and have breakfast together. If your spouse is interested in a sport or activity try joining them for that. Ride together to drop kids off at activities. This will give you time to talk on the ride home.

By placing spending time with each other at the top of your to-do list and making it a priority you will be able to find the time. At first it may seem impossible but be willing to work with each other and make compromises. You will have a much happier and enjoyable relationship as a result.

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