by Vickie Gross

Created on: July 06, 2011   Last Updated: July 07, 2011

"Gentlemen, start your engines!" If you're not a gentleman, take notes anyway. Here are some "manly" tips to giving your woman more pleasure in a relationship!

First of all, be a gentle-man. Put your brain aside and your manners to the wall. Be smooth, sophisticated, and most of all charming. Women may not be able to read their mans' mind but we all learn in time what it really means to give flowers to ones' sweetheart. So, give in freely to the process of displaying your affections and not just handing your woman a bouquet of flowers only. Think of it. Are you trying to beguile her with gifts, distract her with beauty, or are you expecting her to swoon?  Two out of three says she is going to be focused on those flowers unless you make a point of upstaging those hand delivered "Fleur De Lures".

Follow up. If your sweetheart is cooking, genuinely compliment her efforts. If you are a decent cook, set the mood by taking over her position in the kitchen and chivalrously guide her to take a seat for a moment. You're in the suave zone. She's intrigued by your attentions. This is your woman and she is curious to be focusing all on you now, almost as if you had planned it. Take her a "glass" of champagne and offer to draw her a relaxing bubble bath. If for some way out in space reason this does not work out the way you expected it to, then practice, practice, and keep on practicing until you get it right. You both will enjoy the process so it works either way.

If she is not cooking then either she was too busy to cook, not hungry, or she was waiting for you. "Window of opportunity." This is one of the best tips in the world for a man to seize and is absolutely necessary to be alert to. If your woman is putting out the signals and you miss the cue, woe-woe-woe-man, romance is completely slammed out of the ball park! Do not miss this cue, especially so when you feel a sensitive desire  to be close to your sweetheart. Too busy to cook, not hungry, and waiting for you. -"Window of opportunity."

Lastly, and most importantly, be convinced that you are her best friend and live to let her know that she is your best friend in turn. Speak well of her "with" her. Let no one refer to her in any personalizing fashion or any subverting categorical musing. She is your woman, your friend, and an individual deserving of her own identity. Listen thoughtfully and you will know that her greatest pleasure is in being your friend as well as "your woman". When you know this, you can be confident in knowing that you are bringing the most pleasure to the woman you "love"?

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