Many people say you make your own "fate". I am not so sure of that anymore.

As a young child, I remember thinking "I am never going to get married!", "I never want kids","I want to be an artist." Then as I matured, I married after being hurt in a couple other relationships. By then, I had changed my sayings to "I will never be like my grandmother, I will never be divorced like her, or play around!" Well, as fate would have it, I did get a divorce because of falling in love with someone else (who by the way, my ex actually likes, and we are all friends.) I also said, I would never fall in love with a married man...but this person IS a married man working on a divorce, which is taking forever....years!

I was also raised Seventh Day Adventist, and while away at an academy, and college I told myself I would marry a Seventh Day Adventist....Well, that sure didn't happen. My now Ex wanted a more "middle of the road" faith, so I gave in. Faith-wise, I also started respecting and desiring to be Catholic more and more...something I had never really thought of while younger, though many of my friends were of the Catholic faith. Eventually, after our marriage fell apart, I did go to classes with a friend, my sponsor, and became Catholic, which I will now stay...it is "my faith-home".

Now you may be saying to yourself "what do all of the above things have to do with FATE?" First, though I said I would never get married, events transpired to eventually lead to marriage, though I had never planned on it. Second, the person I married was much like my Grandfather, who I had always respected.Third, When my children came along, they were my life! This feeling coming to a person who hadn't wanted kids! It wasn't at first planned.

Fourth, eventually, as my marriage hit low spots, I fell in love with someone else, something I had never wanted to do. I became more and more like my grandmother as far as divorce, and waiting for a married man for years!

Fifth, AFTER becoming Catholic, I discovered that my great-great-grandmother had actually BEEN Catholic! My father didn't know the whole story but he remembered her doing her rosary!

Fate, I have found, DOES somehow play a hand in all of the above... I think some things are meant to be. Subconsciously you may bring some things on without knowing it, but even that seems to be controlled by something, for lack of a better word, I will call fate.

Now, the only saying I have is "Que Sera Sera"... What will be, will be! You can only try to do your best in this world, and try to go with the flow.

Fate, it seems, will have its way.

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