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Its true to say, that no two kids are the same. Their personalities, needs and wants can be totally different from each other. If you have a strong loving bond with your kids, you will know instantly their different attitudes, personalities and how they all react differently in different situations. Just because one child may be different from the other doesn't mean you have to treat them any differently.

Always praise your children for anything they do that is good, even if it just a simple kind word they may say, or something they have done. Children are always searching for praise and appreciation in everything they do, you may not realize it at the time, so if you take time out, and notice what they are actually doing or saying, you will see that they are crying out for your attention. Some children show their emotions through anger in which case, get down to their level, face to face, and ask them gently in a calm but authoritative manor, what their problem is. If you start shouting at them, looking down on them it will make matters worse, they need to know that you want to try and understand what they are going through.
You might find you can communicate on a better level with them by doing this, it has worked for me. You will find the more respect and understanding you give a child you will get more respect and feedback from them.

All children need discipline in their lives, to be able to grow and mature. And yes there are different ways of disciplining each individual child, due to their own different personalities. You all know your own children and what they like doing, so if one likes playing on their games consoles, and they misbehave, to take that privilege away from them, and make them understand that if they don't misbehave, they wont have their favorite things taken off them. They will learn, in the end and come to respect you more. There's no point in saying just go to your room, or you are not playing out for a few days, because they know in the end they've got to come out of there room, you cant keep them locked up. So by taken the things they enjoy doing away from them makes them realize that by them misbehaving they are the ones losing out in the end.

By giving praise to your child, can be encouraging and inspiring, in all ways. It makes they more determined to do even better and better next time around. Its such a good feeling even to us as adults, to get praise for what we do, it makes you feel good, it makes you feel special and appreciated, which makes life a lot easier, and happy for everyone involved.

If you treat one child differently from the other they will pick up on it, and rebel. Insecurities set in and you will make more problems for yourselves. Treat each child the same, yes different ways of punishment maybe required but do it fairly, you will create a happy medium-ship, and eventually your children will grow to understand that what and how you treat them is for their own good, you will gain more respect from them in the long run.

Some children can be very unruly, and left to do as they please, with no intervention from their parents, these children tend to grow up, and have many various problems in life, because they have had no discipline, or boundaries.
Showing discipline doesn't make you a bad parent, it shows you care and you want the best for your children. Its nurturing through the good and the bad, loving and supporting your child in every way, gains respect and gratitude for all you do for them.

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