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I have found out the hard way:
My two girls have told me that when I blew a gasket, it made them clam up, not want to share their feelings. They are 23, and 25. It has been interesting watching them struggle to be the best mothers they can be. Now my last child at home I am not doing the same things. Yes, I still blow a gasket. I now walk away take a time out from my child. I then join him, ask him to sit. (He doesn't always sit, just in case he needs a time out from me.) Bottom line, I have gained his respect. I give him about twenty minutes or so, to plead his case, or explain I did this because:, One of the rules are we both have to remain calm no yelling. I talk with him calmly, I really listen to his feelings, I give eye contact, and I do not speak until he is finished. (At least the majority of the time.) This gives him a chance to vent in a healthy way. He is allowed to say what is on his mind. It has made a amazing difference in the way I have raised him. It is neat, rewarding, respectful, and a lot of the time, you find out their fears, hurts, and to show him respect brings the situation under control, and shows him he is heard, and loved. I hope maybe this will help someone. We also have family meetings, the outcome is the same, we all feel heard, and respected.

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