Emotional intelligence is how well a person picks up on the situation they are in and finds the appropriate emotional response to have for that situation. This seems simple but really it's a gift. Like all gifts it is one that can be taught and one that can be learned.

The wonderful thing about our children is that they learn so much faster and better than we do as adults. How? Because they pay attention to everything and everyone around them. They mimic their parent's attitudes and look for clues as to what to do in a given situation. We teach our children how to behave by showing them how to behave.

So how do we teach our children to be emotionally intelligence? First we the parents have to become emotionally intelligent then lead by example; you knew there was a catch didn't you.

How many times have we had a bad day and come home and don't read the situation with our family very well? I as a parent am guilty of not being excited about something that my son is extremely excited about because I am tired or cranky or preoccupied. But being a parent is not easy, its hard work but the benefits and the rewards are great.

So even if you are tired and cranky make sure that you sense the emotions of your children in the room, and others as well, before you decide to respond and act. Make sure your response equals what you are sensing and is appropriate. If they are sad be empathic; if they are happy be joyful; when they are angry, listen.

The exciting thing about this teaching is that you learn as well. There is a saying that if you think something positive, you will say something positive and if you say something positive you will do something positive. Before you know it you are a positive person. Thoughts have power. Think and be emotionally intelligent and your children will follow in your footsteps.

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