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This is not such an easy topic to write about, since one person's meat is another's poison. The traits and physical characteristics that I prefer you might despise.

In general, the older you become the easier it is to find a suitable partner, because as we age we come to know ourselves and our preferences better than we did during youth. We also learn from past relationships what we like and dislike in a partner. In other words, finding the right person often depends on your own maturity and experience. I can, however, offer some hints for those who are looking to find Mrs. or Mr. Right.

First of all, don't settle for someone you arent that keen on because you are desperate and fear time is running out. Even seventy-year-old widows can find new love. Save yourself for somebody you bond with and admire. There are, after all, several benefits to being single.

Secondly, focus on personality rather than looks. Unless you are dating a Hollywood star who can afford extensive cosmetic surgery, your partner's looks will fade in time. Only personality endures. Friendship is the most fundamental element of a successful relationship. Avoid the good looking and fickle if you are looking for an enduring relationship.

Thirdly, avoid those who you feel compelled to change or who seek to alter you. Look instead for somebody who accepts you warts and all and whom you in turn can tolerate. People only change for themselves, and those who can't take you just as you are will only make you miserable in the long term.

Finally, relax and don't look too hard for your perfect partner. I firmly believe in that old maxim which asserts that there is someone for everyone, but in my experience, the relationship finds you. Good relationships evade you for as long as you actively and obsessively seek them.

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