by Len Morse

Created on: May 09, 2011

Dating can cause anxiety even under the best conditions, but it usually doesn’t take much more than logic and a little confidence for a woman to start a conversation with a man she finds attractive. Many men may raise an eyebrow if they hear one of the patently false-sounding “pick up lines” of old, as they appreciate honesty and originality when being approached by a stranger. Therefore, ladies, know what you like, notice a detail or two, and speak honestly; you should be able to get men interested in you with your conversation, in addition to your looks.

== Choose Your Man Wisely ==

While the title of this article alludes to speaking with all men, a smart woman will already have at least an idea of what type of man she is interested in. You don’t need to mentally know every detail of your potential date, just the basics. This helps weed out those personalities, appearances, and/or beliefs that either turn you off or simply don’t “float your boat.”

Obviously, if you want to start a face-to-face conversation with a stranger, you likely won’t know anything about him, except what he looks like, and possibly how he treats others, if you watch carefully. These two important aspects will help you initially decide whether he’s worth your time.

An online conversation, on the other hand, is potentially much easier, especially if you are a member of an online social group or dating web site. You can usually find basic data about another member quite easily, depending on the security of the site, and therefore get an idea of whether you have anything in common.

This bears repeating: Having something in common is key. It allows you to talk about a subject you like.

== Get a Clue ==

Ideally, you should find some detail about the guy, and use that in an intelligent opening question or comment. Depending on what he’s doing, what he’s wearing, or even just where you find yourselves, you can spot a way to start an interesting conversation. It’s all based on what you potentially have in common.

Actions: It is often hard to tell anything about a man when he is just sitting there, but if you are observant, you will find something. Otherwise, a major activity is a dead giveaway to at least one of his interests. Is he jogging, playing Frisbee with his dog, drinking your favorite drink, or reading your favorite magazine?

Wardrobe: The clothes a man wears are sometimes good clues to his interests. Is there a

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