by Stephanie Wiederspohn

Created on: May 06, 2011

Jealousy is often mistakenly seen as a form of love. This can be especially true in some women who believe that men need to vie for their attention. These women believe that if their partner is not jealous of them being around other men, then they most not love them. This could not be any farther from the truth.

True love is about trust and understanding. A person who is prone to jealousy does not have trust and understanding towards their partner. Jealousy is an indication that the person is insecure and has a low self esteem. They may not believe that they are a good enough person, or that they do not deserve the love from their partner. This leads them to become jealous when anyone from the opposite sex comes into their partner’s life. This can also be true with the same sex friends as well. Their partner may have some very close friends that the jealous person can come to resent for having a firmer relationship than their own.

Jealousy between partners can create a rift in a relationship as the jealous partner may become paranoid about the faithfulness of the relationship. The other partner will feel like there is no trust in the relationship, and from there it will fall apart.

A jealous person will be jealous in any relationship, regardless of the circumstances, because it is caused by their own insecurities rather than the relationship or partner involved. Jealousy in a relationship can also be a sign of worse things to come in a relationship.

In some cases jealousy can progress to the point where the jealous person feels the need to control who their partner can and cannot be around. From there, the relationship may also turn to abuse. Verbal and physical abuse can both stem from jealousy that has been allowed to progress over time. For that reason jealousy must be addressed at the first sign of it’s occurrence.

A truly loving relationship is free from jealousy. Both partners trust each other and understand that their partner loves them and cherishes their relationship. A stable and secure person will not feel the need to be jealous when it comes to their partner. In order to have a truly loving relationship, both partners must be stable, so that the relationship itself can be stable. If problems, such as jealousy, do come up in a relationship it is to be discussed immediately before it can become destructive.

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