by Anthony Brown

Created on: May 06, 2011

            Fifty first date, I think that the name of the movie. It was a cute movie. The irony is not trying to accomplish this theme with multiple partners. In other words becoming wiser in your dating experience is a good sport. You’ll actually want to be successful in a permanent relationship eventually with one of your dates…you would think, right? I mean honestly that is the plan; I hope. I’ve learned a few things, before I actually found my wife, and married her six years ago, dating is a personal signature event. It something like using golf clubs, you tend to make the bag work for you. It needs to fit in the niche of your own game.

            Some simple advice for appropriate places for a first date is to try not to take her to the movies. Go to places where you can actually engage and intercess through conversations. This is wise. Don’t bring her to your pad if you have roommates, or you’re still living with your parent; that’s not too smart. Parties are cool. Private parties with personal friends may make her feel a little awkward. However, parties with mutual friends are appropriate. Dinner is an acceptable. A cooked dinner at home may be too personal, unless it done with a double date. It is a good pitch to try to impress her with your cooking, providing you have skills to cook. Measure yourself up. Are you stronger one-on-one or are you better fading in a crowd. Park picnics are appropriate using the right season at the right time of day. Social events are positive, community events where you both have a common interest. An auction at an estate sale (you may need to actually spend some money to buy her something). A Saturday morning tour of garage sales can be fun, if you both are into thrift shopping. Try pup-pup golf or a coffee –house presentation, perhaps poetry night. Smooth sunrise walks on the beach can set the pace followed by breakfast or Starbucks.

            I think setting the mood is a little more important than the actually appropriate place. Having a cultural knowledge of appropriate single flowers will set things on a good start. Pink in you have an interest and already know her and have developed a friendship. Yellow is suitable for a friendship gesture. White is the color to endorse purity. Whatever you do don’t start the first date with red roses. Bringing a thinking of you card for encouragement works well or a small stuff animal. If you experience on your first date goes well a follow up Thank-you card can accompany the preview for the next phone call. Considering the emotions behind the mood will always remain the priority when creating a date.

            If it’s a woman who is thinking about a first date with a man, I would almost insist on a group gathering with appropriate comfortable friends. You don’t need to feel shy if you are engaging with a male mutual interest. Actually, being on a date which a female initiated has often impressed me. Most men are usually comfortable with it. Tend to let things grow slowly; nature will appear to catch up. It will unite and bond the right chemistry together. It’s been the way of human nature throughout history. There’s no need to worry.

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