by Simone-Denise

Created on: April 11, 2011

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), is a common mental dysfunction where the person has an unhealthy self-image which leads them to create a superior, exalted image of themselves in the eyes of others, and will maintain that image at all costs, even to the point of damaging the person who lies nearest to them: their spouse and kids. You may be in a marriage that is really narcissistic, but because you may not be aware of the symptoms of this disorder, you have accepted to be true, the blame and guilt that has been thrown at you by your spouse. I have listed here just ten out of many symptoms of NPD, to create an awareness.

This is what NPD looks like:

1. In public you will be ignored, while your spouse will give his attention to others, pretending to be the perfect husband/father. However at home, he is sarcastic; insulting; verbally abusive; putting you down and others too; bursts out in fits of anger where your physical safety is threatened.

2. They lack empathy, and are callous. They have no regard for your feelings, or the suffering that you and your kids are going through as a result of their behaviour. In fact all they really care about, and are caught up in is how superior they look in the sight of people and they spare no pains to make sure you know it too! Their putting you down is their way of making themselves feel and look good. Their spirit of grandiosity is the reason why your conversations are always centered upon things that THEY want to speak on, and they will show little interest in what you have to say on the matter, unless it is in agreement with what they want to hear from you.

3. They are highly vain. Do not be fooled if they initially come across as someone who has no self value. Thye may even express these sentiments in words, but be sure that that is their way of extracting praise and excessive admiration from you. In fact, they are OBSSESSED with admiration, to the extent that a woe will land upon you, the spouse, if you dare not recognise an achievement, quality, talent, skill or beauty that they believe is worthy of constant praise!

4. They MUST be agreed with, for in their own little world of unreality, THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT. So questioning their judgment on an issue, is to be totally avoided.

5. They are very charming and can easily win the confidence of people with their convincing facade. This is why victims of a narcissistic spouse find that the friends, and possibly family that they once had, end up believing the bad picture

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