by Sophia Tesch

Created on: April 06, 2011

It’s one of the definitive moments in life. Standing at the front door, ready to say good-bye after a first date, should it end in a kiss?

Painting dating with broad brush strokes is a mistake. Every date is as unique and special as the individuals engaging in this ancient practice. The first kiss is a story of the ages yet the best first kiss is one that happens spontaneously and from the heart. A kiss expressing genuine affection and appreciation creates a memorable moment to last a lifetime.

Generic dating rules don’t take things like how long the people knew each other before going on the first date into consideration.  If the first date comes after three years of knowing each other and the first date went well enough to warrant a kiss, by all means pucker up.

A first kiss at the end of the night is something that should not be taken for granted. It’s an error to assume it’s a green-light to kiss someone just because it’s the end of the date and going too early can be a turn off especially if trust hasn’t been established yet.  

On the other hand let it flow if there is an undeniable chemistry. That type of thing should not be made awkward by not kissing. Come on! Tomorrow is not promised us Carpe Diem! Smooch away!

Kissing on its own is a fun activity, there is no denying a whole new level of wonderfulness added when genuine affection and caring has been developed for the person being kissed. An advantage of holding off on the first kiss is the opportunity to build up expectation which is sensual and worth it especially if no foundation of a relationship has been made in the way of getting to know each other.

If a sense of trust has been established explore what comes next with a kiss on the first date. Yet set boundaries so that the date ends with a kiss only. Anything more intense than that is recommended to come later as the responsibilities that come with an intimate relationship are established.

At the end of a date looking into the eyes of the person standing before you, if your heart feels the magnetic and spontaneous rush that has been felt by lovers throughout the ages, relax, take a breath and enjoy the magic that is the first kiss. 

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