It's a strange one!

You only live with your siblings for a short time in your life. Maybe 18 years. Then you go off to University, the Army, Marriage, Career. You make life long friends with the people you live with in later life or work with yet that relationship you have with your siblings is usually the strongest! You will defend them,even though you too may not agree with their choices. They are the link between you and your parents. Your parents mould you into the person you grow up to be and so it surely has to follow that your siblings must also be like you right?

No it doesn't work like that.I believe something of your soul gets tangled up in there which makes you different. Yet even though you may disagree with you brother or sisters choices, as you get older and spend less time with them you find out you too are not perfect!
I always thought my sister was terrible at picking men and I thought if only she would listen to my sound advice she would finally pick the man of her dreams. Or was it my dreams! It just turned out the guys were lousy! It had nothing to do with her. They were always going to be losers they just happened to date my sis along the way!
One day during a slight disagreement my sister told me I patronised her. I was so taken aback. It really came as a shock to me. I had no idea that was how she saw our relationship. What was I to do about it? Her suggestion was just don't do it anymore. Hmm! Since I din't know I was doing it in the first place how was I suppose to stop? To me it meant our whole 40 year relationship was based on me patronising her. Yet I thought she liked me.Now I had to make a conscious effort to change the way I interacted with her. I tried but it just meant I couldn't be myself around her and she could tell. Obviously! She had known and loved me longer than anyone else I knew.Even my husband of 20 years.And so that is how it stands now. We still speak but not as often as we used to. I try really hard to talk like we use to but I can't forget what she said and now it will always be a barrier between us. It's sad but true. I still love her as much as I always have but it would seem blood isn't always thicker than water.

The End

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