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may be charged with assault, and they will both have to go before a judge and be punished (usually with community service and fines). It doesn't matter who started the fight, or what the fight was about - they are both equally responsible and punished. What a crock!

Is it any wonder that this generation is growing up not only to believe that we shouldn't have conflicts, and that we shouldn't have any violence - but also that to defend one's self against violence is wrong?

We are raising a confused generation. They are taught in school that all is fair and happy and light. If they aren't doing well, they are supported or put into a slower class so they can keep up. They aren't expected to work harder or try harder - it isn't their fault that they are 'learning disabled.' If they want to be on the team, they are automatically on the team - no matter how good or bad they are at the sport in question - all must be fair and equal.

Then, at home, they watch violence on television. They see older siblings that are allowed to do this or that simply because they are older. Their parents tell them stories about how things were when they were in school. The kids don't know what is right and what is wrong based on the two conflicting things that they are seeing - and the conflict itself is disturbing because they are being taught that conflicts should not exist.

On top of that, when they finish school - IF they finish school - we throw them out into the world and expect them to be prepared to live in it. They apply for a job and don't get it, which isn't right because everything is supposed to be equal and fair and it shouldn't matter that the person that did get the job had more qualifications or skills. But since conflicts shouldn't exist, and your child doesn't know how to deal with conflicts anyway, they aren't equipped to do anything about this unfairness that shouldn't be.

The rent comes due, and the now grown kid who didn't get that job (how unfair was that?) doesn't have the money to pay it, and can't understand why the landlord can't put them into a slower class so they can keep up. They end up on the streets, again, not understanding how this could happen since everything is supposed to be fair and no conflicts exist.

This goes on and on - and the poor kid has to either adapt and learn the real rules of living in the real world - or they sink into lives of drugs and crime. The other alternative is that they are forty years old, still expecting Mommy and Daddy to take

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