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a rock. How often are we our own worst enemies? How often do we let our own fears or self doubt or just circumstances of life take our focus off our goal?

Just as we lose our focus, we become whiners. No matter what anyone says, everyone has fallen into the "oh poor pitiful me, my life is in shambles, I have nothing" attitude at least once in their lifetime. No matter the degree of self pity, everyone has been there at least once. I have no tolerance for people who wallow in it. I'm not saying that you are always going to be happy. I'm not saying that you are not allowed to be sad or upset or angry. what I am saying is DON'T WALLOW IN IT! Life is crappy sometimes. God never promised it would be a bed of roses. He never promised to give us what we wanted on a silver platter. In fact, God tells us that life is going to be hard. Yet people are still honestly surprised when bad things happen. Then it's one excuse after another. People MAKE themselves into victims. No one likes to fight back anymore. No one wants to fight for what they have or want to have. People just give up at the drop of a hat. Why?

You want to hear about the downs of life? Let me give you an insight of MY life...
I am thirty years old. In my life I have had leukemia, been sexually molested for 4 years by a family member, had divorced parents, been in jail and missed my daughters 1st birthday, married a man who became a drug addict, been almost divorced, have lost two new homes, three cars, almost everything I own but for the clothes on my back due to my husbands drug addiction...I could go on, but what's the point. This is how most people would describe their life. The way i actually describe my self is this...I am a cancer survivor. I had a 50/50 chance of living at the age of 2 1/2. I beat the odds and have been cancer free for 24 years. I was molested, but because of that, I learned how to let go of anger and hate. If you cling to those two things, you bind yourself to who or what you are angry towards. I chose to marry a man I loved and who lived me FOR BETTER OR WORSE. I do not condone his actions. I am not the cause of his actions. But I can, have and will continue to learn about addiction and what I can do to help him recover and continue to recover. (He is currently in a 9 month rehab program and doing very well) I missed my daughter's first birthday because of a momentary lack of good judgment. I missed one day that she will not remember. I have the rest of my life to not miss out on her other birthdays.

You see, it's all in how you see things. Change your expectations and you will change your life. Don't lose your focus. Don't make yourself a victim and don't let anyone else make you a victim. Take control of your self. You cannot change what happens to you in life, but you can change your reaction to it.

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