by Sophia Tesch

Created on: February 04, 2011   Last Updated: February 05, 2011

In the new age of tech in the dating world folks are flirting from behind the keyboard. People are looking for that someone special whether it be by utilizing an online dating service, searching in chat rooms, browsing the possibilities on Facebook, or giving it their best shot in online gaming and other virtual worlds. The world of dating has in many ways gone cyber. Some people take to cyber interaction like a duck to water but for those who feel more like a fish out of water here are some tips for a more rewarding experience with dating.

WHOA!

Some aspects of Internet dating are the same as face-to-face interaction. One common mistake is sharing too much information in the foundation period of the relationship and scaring someone off. For example go easy on the compliments and the commitments. The “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” line works as well online as it does at the club and that means it doesn’t work. Trust building is even more important with online relationships as it would be in face-to-face relationships because the participants can’t see each other. So remember W.H.O.A. when engaging in conversation and things should be alright.

Weather, Hobbies, Occupation, Aspirations or WHOA is a good thing to remember when communicating for the first time.

Weather: Wow its cold here what’s it like where you are?

Hobbies: What do you like to do for fun?

Occupation: So how was work today? What do you do?

Aspirations: Talking about dreams. I have always wanted to take a train trip up the Pacific Coast to see the redwoods. What is something you have always wanted to do?

These are good openers.

Take it Easy.

The other mistake is trying to move too fast. There is no need to know immediately if this person is “the one” and  if they feel that they are not in the same place as you are with the relationship it can scare away a good friend and potential soul mate just because things are moving too fast.

How many contacts per day are enough, or too much when starting out? This is something that needs to be felt out as the relationship develops however the rule of thumb is  “Always leave them wanting more.” It’s a good one to follow. Also, wait until they answer back before sending more communication. Even if things are going well, if the object of your affections feels like they are being “spammed” with several communications a day they can get turned off or wonder if you are some

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