by Stormy Lachevet

Created on: February 04, 2011   Last Updated: February 05, 2011

Long distance relationships - over coming the test of time!

Relationships are tricky to say the least. It requires giving as well as receiving. The receiving part is always easy. However in order to give there are many things that govern ones ability to truly give of yourself.  In order to give of ones self you have to be mature. This isn't determined by age. It is an emotional ability to put others in a place a child would hold only for themselves and their parents. Many relationships fall by the wayside because one partner or the other doesn't hold the value of the relationship as highly as their personal needs.

In a relationship transcending over many miles, a basic relationship has taken an easy to manage problem and turned it into a many fold dilemma. In order to be built and maintained, both partners have to be on an even Kiel. Able to survive alone and yet chooses to include another. Too many relationships are built on a need for companionship or a false sense of worth when with another person. If this is the case, you will not make it in a long distance relationship. It is too much work and requires trust. Something many of us lack.

I believe if you are really suppose to be together you will. Miles or next door are only distance. In this day more and more we are seeing this type of relationship work. I have witnessed many in which this type of relationship not only works but unites each in a soul quest to find out the true nature and desires of not only themselves but the person they wish to be in the relationship with.

Here are some things to help in the event you find yourself in such a relationship.

Spend time on projects, not thinking of your loneliness.

Get to truly know the person you are interested in Talk and listen to them. But remember if you are not looking at them meaning can be mistaken, so ask questions for clarification.

Talk about your feelings and your day, by text, e-mail or phone. Keep in touch. Keep them in your thoughts and prayers.

Realize that worrying is a part of life but so is trust. Do both when appropriate. Worry when there is something in the others voice. Trust that it can be overcome.

Tell the other about your intentions, keep them informed of changes as they happen. Be open to the needed changes. Maintain open communication always.

And most of all if you are looking around...... you are not in the right relationship.

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