by Ali Koomen

Created on: January 22, 2011   Last Updated: January 28, 2011

God’s word is fairly clear that we are to abstain from sex if we are not married.  This seems like such a simple, straightforward request, yet it is one of the most widely debated and discussed topics in the Bible.  It clearly states that when we engage in sexual immorality, we dishonor God:   “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor—“  1 Thessalonians 4:3-4

"Sexual immorality" can encompass a wide range of behaviours, but in the Bible it is mainly directed at keeping oneself chaste and to not engage in sex outside of marraige.  Again, on paper this seems like a simple request, but to a teenager, it could almost seem cruel. to a teenager. To expect abstinence while your bodies are changing, brimming with hormones, when your common sense and rational thinking has not quite caught up to your emotions. The ‘puppy love’ stage you experienced over a certain guy or gal just a few years ago has graduated into deeper feelings.  Combine that with the media push that sexy is in, that we should give into our feelings, that the only way to show someone you love them is by offering your body.  Add to that the inevitable peer pressure from other students who are doing it, and you may start to think you should try it, just to see what the fuss is all about.

There are many problems in thinking in that manner.  The deep, intense hormone-fueled feelings experienced by a teenager are not the ones you will experience later in life, once you are fully mature. Any time you allow yourself to make any decision without fully exploring the consequences can only come to a bad end.  If you allow yourself to be guided by feelings and emotions, it may lead to further poor choices.  You may be absolutely, certainly positive that the person you are dating is the one you will be with forever, so it’s ‘okay’ to have sex, since he or she is ‘the one.’

The truth is that high school sweethearts very rarely make it to the end of their high school career together, let alone all the way into ‘happily ever after’.  The boy you may give into this week could be the one who whispers to one friend about it tomorrow, and by next week, you’ll be known as the school’s sleep-around.  The girl that you might convince

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