by Dawn R. Babcook

Created on: January 22, 2011

An unrequited love relationship can be very difficult to handle.  I personally am in one as I speak and have been having a bit of difficulty in figuring out just which way to go with it and trying to continually analyze where it seems to be going and not going.  There are times when it feels like he is falling in love with me as much as I am in love with him and then there are other times in which I do not ever think he will or could fall in love with me or anyone for that matter.  We have been together for 3 years now and I fell in love with him after being involved in our relationship for about a year and a half and foolish me made a point of telling him that I was in love with him and after hearing his words of response I was a bit shocked.  He stated that he wasn't in love with me, at least not yet that is but he stated that he couldn't say that he wouldn't ever fall in love with me.  Those words tore at my heart.  I do still love him and want to be with him as he is a wonderful and caring man but I often question where this relationship will be another 3 years from now if I stay in it.

I tell myself that all I want is exactly what I have to offer.....love, trust, commitment, etc.  All of the things that we all want and look for in a relationship.  My biggest reason for telling him that I was in love with him was due to the fact that years ago I was in love and this was my first true love.  A love I had never experienced before.  I was to afraid to ruin the wonderful friendship that the 2 of us had so I just kept my mouth shut.  WOW.....big mistake.  Our paths crossed several years later and after several conversations the truth came out....It wasn't just me who was afraid to admit how they truly felt those many years ago.  We both were afraid and as we talked further we both said that had we not been so worried about ruining our friendship and just been open and honest about our feelings for one another we both probably may have ended up together and been very happy.

I have decided that I need to take a big step back and analyze my current relationship of 3 years for validity.  I have to start thinking about myself and what I want out of life and for my future and then I need to focus myself so that I can achieve those highly attainable goals for myself in order for me to truly be happy.  I don't and won't go another 3 years in a relationship that is bound by unrequited love and neither should anyone else who is in a similar situation.

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