by KKaryn

Created on: January 20, 2011

We have a past so that we can move through our present to get to our future. Why do we always live in the past and still say we are moving forward or moving on with our life? If you are always talking about it and revisiting it, then it is not your past, but your present and your future.

Until we can deal with the events and people in our past, it will always have life and be a major part of us, keeping us from getting the most from our life. If a woman had one, two, or many lovers in her past, even if it was a good or a bad experience, it is the past.

If her past does not cause harm to her husband, if it is not going to help make their life better, why should it matter. She left the men in her past to enjoy her present life with her husband.

The past can be useful or it can be harmful, it is up to us how we use it to help better our life. If there we a lot of pain in the past, then it would be useful to try to keep yourself from making the same mistakes and becoming unhappy again with the same pain. If it was good then remembering, the past could help in making the present better.

The thing about letting your husband know your romantic past could work for you or against you, depending on his personality and what is in his past, if he could handle her past. The big question is how is this knowledge is going to help the relationship?

If the husband is a person that hold things against a person than this could be a bad thing for him to know about her past. That will open the door for why did you do this or that for your x but not for me, or you might have done that with your x but I am not having it. You can tell a person a lot about you without telling them about your romantic past. Persons past should not judge a marriage or any relationship.

My husband never ask me about my romantic past, but I did ask some questions as the relationship grew, because he had been married twice and if there was a possibility of us getting married there were things that I felt I needed to know. Questions I asked were not about the romantic part of the relationships.

In order for us to have a happy life together, we had to let go of our past and make our own past with memories that we share. It is the past why revisit and hurt the present.

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