by Alicia Sloley

Created on: January 02, 2011   Last Updated: January 04, 2011

The most important way to bond with your children is to listen and observe them, if you do this the bond between child and parent will be become very strong and almost works every time the explanation is as follows.

A lot of parents tend to look at children as just that a child, without truly understanding them. Children are little people. They have the same feelings and emotions as adults and thus should be treated with the same respect as you would and adult. If a child is not of talking age, you will normally know through certain behavior if there is something wrong with them .

You should act on this straight away, as the child is expressing to you in the only way they know how  that there is something wrong with them or there is something that they may need. Understanding these signs and acting on them shows your child that they can communicate with you, and that you understand what they are trying to tell you, which is very important and comforting to a child and will make them feel safe.

As a child grows and is able to speak to you, things should become a lot easier. It is important that you always make time to listen to what your child wants to say or is trying to tell you. Parents can have very busy lives and some may say they don't have the time, well you need to make the time. These children are your future and deserve your time. In most cases the birth of  a child  is planned so they deserve your time and attention.

There is a reason your child is coming to you. They will expect you as a parent to have the answer to their questions as in most cases children look up to their parents. Through listening and observing to your children, you will understand their likes and dislikes what they enjoy doing and what they dislike doing. Which makes happier children as you will be able to plan surprises and outings they enjoy, as you will be aware just by talking to them what they like.

These things as little as they are, create and enormous bond between a parent and child. Again I hear you say you have to work and have little time, but today with all the new technology that we have it is so much easier to keep in touch with our children and communicate cheaply and easily via email, text, phone, paging.

Some children through lack of being able to talk or communicate with their parents get in to all sorts of problems such as finding the attention they need and long for in the wrong people or wrong places. Some children due to being misunderstood and not being able to talk to their parents about what is upsetting them have even gone to the extremes of committing suicide feeling they have no one to turn to which is very sad.

It is not much and costs nothing just to listen. Just  take a little time out of your busy life just to observe and listen and the bond you will create with your child will be enormous and so rewarding and will make your children feel happy and safe.

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