by Das Govind

Created on: December 19, 2010   Last Updated: December 21, 2010

Should you give an answer to a marriage proposal immediately?

NO, I do  not think that you should give an answer to a marriage proposal immediately. There is nothing wrong with giving something like a marriage proposal some serious thought. It is going to affect the rest of your live and you do want to make the right decision. I strongly believe that no one should rush into marriage seeing the high divorce rate that is prevalent in today's society. There is nothing wrong with taking a few days to think about the suggestion.

Sure, it is cool and very romantic when a partner proposes, but judging by how people live in the 21st century, we all have to compromise, and see to it that we are making a decision that is for life. Many people today get caught up in s whimsical moment and make the wrong decision. Sure, the day when that significant other had proposed may have been something to die for, and very romantic, he/she may have proposed on the top of the Eiffel Tower or chose a romantic island setting, where you could just not refuse, but when reality sets in and you one day wake up, and realise that this is not the life that you had envisioned, then the honeymoon is over, and you will then realise that you have messed up your life.

Some may say that it would be thoughtless if you hesitate when someone so lovingly proposes to you, and you should give them a positive answer immediately. This is such nonsense as people today have lots of freedom, and many people choose to remain single as they want to concentrate on other areas of their lives like travelling and their career. There is nothing wrong when giving marriage some thought, as you rather say no to a commitment then and there ; then saying yes, in a hasty moment, and regretting it later on, or breaking off an engagement, when the other person has given so much of themselves. You and the other person can move on in live, and meet other people then living a lie, and doing something that society says is right.

Giving a marriage proposal some thought can be the right decision. Maybe you know that this is the right person for you, but you would like to just speak or consult with your best friend, there should be no harm in this. Your partner somehow will know that your answer will be yes, and may not even mind the delay.

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