by Michelle Powers

Created on: March 09, 2007   Last Updated: May 02, 2007

Live in relationships are what you make out of them. The choice to move in with some one is not always an easy one. To make things work it is a good idea to talk about some guidelines. For example-how do you feel about other friends spending the night, when is it too late to have someone over or call, are there any things you just can't stand such as laundry on the floor. These types of things may not seem like a big deal but when dealing with them everyday small things add up!

I also suggest before marrying anyone that you live with them for one year through all four seasons. This may sound silly but I promise you it is good advice! People change their behavior and mannerisms when they are truly comfortable with living with someone. Often you will see things that you didn't see when you were dating; this could include behaviors, habits, or mannerisms. How people react and act during the holidays is important to know as well. For example your partner may seem really helpful now but when Christmas comes around are they going to do their share? Will you do all the shopping yourself? Cooking? Your traditions for each holiday could be totally different and neither of you may want to compromise. Wouldn't you want to know before you walked down the aisle?

I had a wonderful partner who I dated for almost 5 years and we truly loved each other. We decided to move in together and it was a nightmare! I couldn't stand his messiness and lack of organization! He thought since we were living together that I would cook and clean for him. It just didn't work out so we had to break up. I thank God that I didn't get married and then move in together. I know this doesn't happen to everyone but wouldn't you want to be sure before you committed yourselves till death' ?

Learn more about this author, Michelle Powers.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.