by Eddie Speirs

Created on: December 10, 2010

So you met a very nice woman, you are interested in her and she is interested in you. You agree to exchange phone numbers and go on a date in the next few weeks. You start to think to yourself "Where am I going to take her?", "What shall I wear?",  or "What if it doesn't work out?" You start to panic and convince yourself that you shouldn't  call her because you may get rejected after the first date. Slow down, relax, and consider the following steps to help your date be as successful as possible.

1) Call her the day after meeting her. Tell her that it was really nice talking to her  and that you are happy that you both met. Ask her questions on what she likes to do for fun?, what type of food does she like to eat?, etc. This will help you when suggesting ideas for the date. When making a suggestion say something like "Since you like sushi, I know a nice sushi bar that you would love". This will show her that you were listening and you are willing to do something she likes. Don't speak too long on the phone; about 10-15 minutes is great. Make sure you choose a time and place to pick her up which is convenient for both of you.

2) Make sure that you are presentable. Every woman wants a man to be themselves but they also like it when a man makes an effort to look and smell good for them. Dress based on the date. If you are going out for pizza, do not wear a suit, or if you are going to a nice restuarant, do not wear a sweatsuit. Wear a touch of cologne. Make sure your hair is neat and you are well groomed.

3) Do not try to be someone you are not. However, make an effort to be nice no matter what she does or says. At all costs avoid putting her down or discouraging her in any way. Tell her that she looks great. Do not give her too many compliments though as she may think you are not genuine.

4) Ask lots of questions and listen to her attentively. She will think you are a great conversationalist if you listen and use follow up questions to what she just answered. Do not make the conversation about you all the time. Only speak about yourself when she asks you questions.

5) Use humor. Be careful not to be sarcastic or use too much humor. Know how much is appropriate. Do not use profanity. If you swear a lot with your friends or co-workers, try to eradicate it so you don't offend her. Smile a lot and be happy. Do not bog her down with your problems or stresses. Always keep the conversation focused on positive agendas.

6) Study her. Begin to understand what she likes and doesn't like. If you can find out what she likes and connect with her, you will be very attractive in her eyes.

7) Never go to the movies on the first date. The purpose of the first date is to have fun and communicate. You cannot communicate in the movies.

8) Always pick up the dinner tab, even if it is expensive. This will show her that she is important enough for you to splurge on.

9) Never, ever talk about ex-girlfriends. I read an article a few months back that said if the person you are dating mentions their ex three times or more on the first date then they still have feelings for them.

10) Never make sexual advancements on the first date. A hug and a kiss on the cheek is appropriate at the end of the date. You will send her a signal that you like her, but more importantly you're a gentleman.

Good luck. Dating can be strenuous, but if done right it can be fun and lead to something special.

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