by Sandra Gillhouse

Created on: December 02, 2010   Last Updated: December 28, 2010

Have you ever noticed that there's this amazing moment of pure love at a birth, between the child and the world around it. When the tiny eyes first open to let light in and they begin to respond. It’s remarkable. A brief unspoiled instant, as if time stops and all we see is a miracle.

 Then someone speaks; compares eye color or facial features, and turns the event into a human reality. Suddenly we begin to see the child in life through our own experiences, our visions of what may be and/or what we perceive it as. Therefore, it’s probably our own thoughts leaking into the newly born, that changes the quality of love.

Sure, we all say that we love our kids, and most of us do, with whatever human ability we have, but the pure love we witness at birth is lost the moment we open our mouths.

Human love merely is a trade off, sort of speak, full of expectations, with an emphasis on equality. Think about it what other reason could there be for punishment? If you argue that we expect behaviors on the basis of safety, and etiquette. And when our children fail these, out of love, we must discipline our children. I say if there were only pure love there would be no fear of danger or lack of propriety. Punishment you understand is always based on fear. There simply is no fear in pure love. It’s a time when all things are treated equally.

Once again, as I said before, the love is spoiled once the human factor enters in. The pickle of it is however, that we then spend our lifetimes trying to get that transparency back again. Nevertheless, the older you get the more difficult it becomes to shed oneself in order to remember that untainted love. It becomes a source of contention—The “you,” part—Letting go of what you think you know to find what you really need to know; the answer to,what is love all about?

Everything we attempt in this life extends from that question. Our marriages, our families, even work goals, when founded on altruism, rolls back to a better understanding of love and loveliness.

If its truth, as has been said, that sets you free, and by free I mean free to be and know that love again, then the truth is probably chained beneath those layers of self. Just ask yourself what do you want to be free of ? If we're truly honest most of us would agree that we want to be free of ourselves, perhaps it's because we still have that intuitive lingering flash of agape love.

It saddens me that the moment of pure love witnessed at birth doesn’t linger. Maybe if we all just shut-up and let the awe permeate us longer, the life wouldn’t hurt so much so we could truly live what love is all about.

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