by Wendi

Created on: March 08, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

Dating in today's society has changed considerably in the last three decades in part due to changes in society and in part due to past ideals that are no longer a reality for the younger generations. Many of the opportunities that are afforded to members of today society were not offered to our parents. This is both a blessing and a curse. Being a member of Generation X has afforded many of my girlfriends and myself included the opportunity to excel in the career world but has left little education on how to proceed in our personal lives, more specifically relationships, while carrying on the professions of our fathers, instead of our mothers. How do we balance having both a career and a family? Before we even have the family, we have to figure out how to find the person we want to be with. Once again, a blessing and a curse, woman can now afford to be pickier in our relationships. We no longer have to settle out of necessity because we are afraid of who is going to take care of us.

I have been brought up to believe that I can succeed at anything I put my mind to as long as I apply my intelligence, diligence, hard work and social graces. I will be the first to admit, I have high standards in both my professional life and my personal life. I except 100% in everything I do. On the other, I will give 100% back. When looking for the perfect match I look for the person that will inspire me to be a better person. I have been blessed in that I have found a few "perfect matches" during my lifetime. Unfortunately, what fit my life ten years ago doesn't always fit today. It is my thought and belief that a major problem in dealing with dating while a person is in their twenties and even early thirties, like myself, is that with all of the opportunities afforded to us, we are always changing, growing and developing people. Many couples get together thinking "This is it. This is who I want to be with for the rest of my life." Unfortunately, many fail to recognize that this is not who they are going to be for the rest of their lives and neither is their partner. This is a different view from the perspective of our parents. Past generations grew up a lot faster than the today's younger generation, which once again is a blessing and a curse.

When looking for your perfect match, I believe many people, myself included enjoy the idea of falling in love and meeting that special person that makes you feel giddy from head to toe. It's an amazing feeling and there is no question why

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